LADIES ONLY: 5 Signs You Are Dating A Womanizer

It all starts innocently enough. You’ve just met a man who, at least on the surface, seems to be your dream guy. He’s attractive, funny, charming, successful and his smile — let alone the thought of his caress — makes you weak in the knees. You go out on a date or two, and he’s nothing short of perfect. He treats you like a queen, compliments your sense of style and tells you all of the things that you’ve been longing to hear from a guy.
So how do you know this guy’s the real thing and not just some womanizer who’s going to disappear after he gets the cookies (sleeps with you)? While the only way to know for sure is to pass the test of time, here are a few red flags that would definitely indicate your new man’s a womanizer:

1. He has a reputation. If your girlfriends have warned you that he uses women and throws them away, you need to listen to them and know he’s most likely a womanizer. Granted, there’s a small chance that you are the woman who can change him, but even if you do, you’ll just wind up spending the rest of your relationship worrying he’s going to revert back to his old womanizing ways. It’s very likely a guy like this will.

2. He moves fast. Before you’ve even had a chance to meet his friends and family, he’s telling you that you’re the woman of his dreams and he’s been waiting his whole life just to find you. While this is certainly exciting and thrilling, how could he possibly know that this quickly? It’s much more likely that he’s just in love with love (best case), or he’s just trying to get one thing from you (you know what it is). And this womanizer wants to reach his goal as soon as possible.

3. He’s over the top with the romance. We all love romantic gestures, whether it be a hand-written poem or a bouquet of flowers delivered to our desks at work, but if your guy constantly wants to jet you off to the islands for a romantic weekend or often surprises you with lavish jewelry, then he’s most likely had plenty of practice. While you might be thinking that you’re just graciously accepting his gifts, to him, these come with expectations on your part.

4. He only has eyes for you… and anything else in a skirt. If you notice that your guy is checking out other women, or worse, flirting with the waitress, hostess, barista, etc., then he’s most likely a womanizer. As he’s telling you how beautiful you are and that you’re exactly the type of woman for him, he’s already thinking about how the woman that just walked by fits the same description. He’s not lying — the womanizer feels this way about every woman that strikes his fancy — you just happen to be part of the (very populated) crowd.

5. He seems too good to be true. He’s just a little too smooth, a little too charming, a little too perfect and that little voice in your head is telling you he’s done this before, probably many times over. While you may be tempted to ignore that nagging little voice and head upstairs to his apartment, just know that your instincts are more attuned to the situation than you think. It’s likely that as he’s telling you over coffee that he has a busy day ahead and can’t spend more time with you, you’ll be hitting yourself wishing you had listened to your gut last night.

Of course, this isn’t an all-inclusive list, nor should any of these traits be considered an immediate deal breaker. However, if any of the above are hitting close to home, your best bet is to take things slow and see if your guy survives the test of time. True womanizers rarely can.

[Advice Needed] I Maltreated My Girlfriend Because She Won’t Cook For Me! How Do I Make Her Forgive Me?

Two nights ago, I got drunk out of what we call “over happiness” over a deal I just struck. I called my girl who lives in my lodge up into my room and told her that I’m sorry for not being able to help her complete her assignment I was copying because I was too dizzy. She calmed down when she saw I was drunk and even fed me and looked after me while I was jonzing… When the effects of the alcohol started affecting my health in the middle of the night, she advised me to self induce myself to throw up which I did and threw up every single grain of indomie she fed me, about 30mins after throwing up, I became soooo hungry. It was almost like I haven’t eaten in my life, she was already lying down sleeping when I tapped her to give me food to eat, since I threw up the little she fed me but she refused. Instead, she asked me to eat a little remaining bread and drink water. Immediately, I became surprised as I know first-hand that she had a pot of stew in her room with some un-cooked rice. For the fact that she was sleepy, I considered it and knew that she won’t be able to cook that night, so I begged her to please go to her room and get the stew and rice so I can boil it, she still refused and told me she won’t do it. I annoyingly stood up and walked towards her, then out of fear, she agreed and told me that she will go and bring it.

30 minutes later, I was still waiting for her to show up with the food but she didn’t. I went down to her room at about 1:00am and knocked fiercely on her door till her room mate opened the door. I walked into the room only to find her lying comfortably on her bed.. I was shocked at such wickedness, hungry as a starving wolf and still drunk with both alcohol and rage, I grabbed her from the bed, and started pulling her to my room. After a couple of pleas from her room mate, I left her lying on the floor crying while I narrated what happened to her room mate who immediately agreed to prepare the rice for me to eat.
Its been two days now and my girlfriend of 2 years has refused to talk to me, I’ve pleaded with all my heart and soul to her but still she says that I should just leave her alone. I’m so confused right now and I don’t know what to do because I actually do love her.
Please I need reasonable advises.

14 Signs That He Loves You Without Saying It Out!

Being curious to know if a guy loves you is a whole waste of time. Because he didn’t say “I love you” doesn’t really mean he doesn’t. Some guys find it hard to express their love through words, but they are really good at expressing it through their behaviour and here are some signs to know that would tell…..

1. He remembers what you say: A guy who is truly in love with a girl, always listens to her and remembers what she says, even if it is something trivial because he takes her seriously.
2. He take care of your needs if your man really loves you, he will always look for a way to make your life better, be it about covering you with a blanket when you are cold, Helping you with stuff even when you least expected him to be doing that or even cooks for you.
3. You are always a part of his big plans in life: He speaks about his life and dreams with you, and you always have a prominent place in his future plans.
4. He holds your hand instinctively when you are in crowd and places his hand on your back, when crossing the Street. This is reflex action that both of you won’t realize. If a guy loves you he will always want to protect you and reassure you.
5. He values your opinion a lot and doesn’t take any important decisions about his own life without hearing your opinion and having a discussion with you
6. He wraps his hands around you or stand closer to you, when talking to other guys and having a good laugh, this is to show the world that you’re the one he loves and any other guys should back off.
7. He uses the ‘we’ instead of ‘I’ or ‘me’ without realising it.
8. He respects you and treats you with a lot of respect. He doesn’t stare at other girls when you’re around and he doesn’t cut you off in a middle of a conversation.
9. You are the last person he speaks to or text at night. If he loves you, you’ll be the first and last thing on his mind every time he wakes up and go to sleep.
10. He makes a lot of effort to be liked by friends and family. He cares about what your friends and family thinks of him and he also understand that their impression of him will also affect your relationship with them.
11. He can’t stay mad at you for any reason, for more than couple of hours. People in love can’t stay mad at each other, he tries to apologies first, even if it’s your fault, but he can’t stand to see you mad at him
12. He talks a lot: if a guy loves you, he finds it easy to tell you things easily, be it about his life, work or plans or even how annoying his friends are.
13. He is a helping hand: he’s always ready to offer a helping hand every time you ask him, even if he’s busy, he does it while whinning and grumbling at the same time.
14.He never forgets your special day: Especially your birthday! He tries so hard to always remember it and also help out on that day

5 Things You Should Never Say To Singles

Today’s society seems to be more accepting of single adults than in the past where almost everyone was expected to marry at an early age. Although there is acceptance, many coupled individuals are curious about their single friends and family members. If you are married (or in a relationship) and feel sorry for your single friends and family, please do not feel the need to make any of these comments or ask these questions, like:

1. “When are you getting married?” In my recent social media survey, this was the NUMBER ONE QUESTION that baffled (and irritated) most singles. If they knew when they were getting married they would tell you (unless they were planning to elope). Many of us are still waiting to be found (ladies) or are still trying to determine who will be “The One” (men). So the answer to this question most times will be, “I have NO idea!”
2. “You can’t find anyone yet? Maybe it’s because your standards are too high.” Well, if we take just anyone who comes along, are we using wisdom? Most singles have some standards that they are sticking with in deciding who they will marry. Many of us are pursuing our purpose and will need someone to walk with us and support us as we achieve our goals. As long as the “standards list” doesn’t contain anything that is above what we will be willing to offer our desired future mate, our “high” standards are just fine.
3. “You need to hurry up, you aren’t getting any younger.” Getting married is not 100% up to either party. The single person must first meet someone who has expressed an interest, and then there is a period of getting to know him or her. Next, a decision has to be made on whether the relationship or friendship should advance to the next level. If a woman is hearing this statement and is already anxious about having children, it adds unwanted pressure to her situation. Speeding up the process of meeting, dating/courting and engagement has not worked for many who tried it. (Of course there are exceptions.) Also, some singles are not concerned with marrying at a young age, as they may prefer to establish themselves first. So our response to this statement is:
“The right situation will happen when the time is right.”
4. “Really? Never married? Okay, so what’s wrong with you?” This comment may cause the single person to become very sarcastic, so if you ask this question be prepared for the answer you will receive. Many are not married simply because no-one asked! Some were not ready for marriage before, so they were not focused on getting married in the past. As I mentioned earlier, they may be focusing on career/education or raising children as a single parent and prefer to wait before entering into a marital commitment. Not being married by a certain age does not always mean that something is wrong with them.
5. “Don’t get married!” The reflex response will be “Why not?” with a bit of an attitude. Married folks, who are having less than stellar marital experiences, may offer this advice. Others who offer this advice may have never seen a successful marriage so they assume that the single person will be spared some heartache if they follow their advice. While it is true that around 50% of marriages end in divorce, if the single person truly desires marriage and is diligent in preparing for it, then there is no reason to discourage them from marriage. They may prepare by participating in pre-marital counseling with their future spouse, by getting out of debt (or by preparing a plan to get out of debt), by practicing healthy eating habits/exercise, and by working on their spiritual lives. Being married has many benefits; some are financial, but many are physical, emotional and spiritual. Here is the bottom line: Many singles WANT to be married! Don’t discourage them!
If you are worried about your single friends and family members, be careful how you present your concerns to them. Instead, consider praying for them and lovingly encourage them. Include them when you plan fun activities with your families or with other married friends. Invite other single men and women! You never know what can happen! :-)
http://www.blackandmarriedwithkids.com/2014/02/5-things-you-should-never-say-to-singles/

Married? 5 Sexy and Unusual Ways to Lose Weight

It may seem hard to take out time to hit the gym for a workout session. But how many of you are aware of some “naughty ways” to melt those extra kilos? Here, discover some of the most unusual and sexy ways that can help you in losing weight.
Get ready and indulge in these to say goodbye to your weight issues forever.

1. Kissing Burns Calories!
Showing affection through kissing is not just good for your relationship, but is excellent for your waistline also. On an average, kissing can burn around 2-5 calories per minute; however, a vigorous kiss can raise the ‘calorie’ meter further. Many studies claim that while kissing, if you reach a point where both of you are breathing heavily, it’s a sign that you are burning more calories. So, just inject some passion in your kiss to melt those pounds faster.
Sexy tip: Try kissing in unusual positions. You can burn more calories, if you are standing than sitting, and more moving than still.
2. s*x Diet
Yes, the sexiest mantra to lose that extra flab- Lots of s*x! Almost all muscles including the legs, shoulders and lower abdomen are worked upon during a session of love-making. On an average a half hour of s*x burns about 200 calories. However, if you turn some basic exercises into foreplay, you can firm up your problem areas too. So, engage yourselves in moves like “love squats” to tone up your body.
Sexy tip: Incorporate s*x in different positions to enhance its exercise effects.
3. Elvis-Pelvis Exercise:
Stand unclad facing your partner and press your pelvises together for balance. Raise your arms to the ceiling and lean back while maintaining pelvic contact. Hold for three seconds, repeat five times. (You can refer Kerry McCloskey’s, the Ultimate s*x Diet book for more such exercises).
4. Undressing
Learning the art of ‘Undressing’ can also help you shed those kilos. Unhooking a bra with two hands burns up to 8 calories whereas doing it with one hand can burn up to 18 calories. Amazed? Don’t be! Here is another twist in the tale; according to an Italian researcher, if a man unhooks a bra using his mouth, he can burn up to 87 calories in the process. Now isn’t that interesting and easy? So, all you guys out there, now you certainly know where to begin your action from.
Sexy tip: Play a game with your partner where you both have to undress each other but without using your hands. It will be fun, sexy and great for your body.
5. Love Squats
This one is for all the new moms out there who are struggling to lose their post-pregnancy weight. Now, you can keep your legs in shape by doing some love squats using your toddler as a weight. Since it is very difficult to take out time for exercise after you have a baby, this is the best way to lose that extra flab from your body. Enjoy the giggles of your baby while exercising and start shedding your weight.
Exercises you can do: Baby squats, baby twists, baby chest presses.
Caution: Only do these exercises with a baby who has complete head control and who is fully capable of controlling his own body.
http://www.bollywoodshaadis.com/article/lifestyle–health/health–fitness/4-sexy-and-unusual-ways-to-lose-weight

THE MAN I NEED in my next marriage – Chika Ike

Which actress has worked hard amidst distractions and other challenges and still found time to unwind? Certainly there are many of them and Chika Ike is among them. During the New Year she charged the atmosphere in the entertainment industry when she travelled to Abu Dhabi for her break
and kept many tongues wagging. Chika is like the proverbial cat with nine lives as she’s grappling with a failed mar- riage which has not prevented her from exploring her talents. She started as a model, then ventured into business with her outfit called Fancy Nancy. Today she is the most sought-after actress in Nol- lywood. The Anambra-born actress who has put her failed marriage behind her and moved on with her life is unrelent- ing in her career and she was recently vested with the title of Akwa Ugo 1 of Amuri Kingdom in recognition of her industriousness and philanthropy. In this interview with Christian Agadibe, Ms

Ike talks about lessons she learnt from her first marriage and other

issues. Excerpts:

You actually charged the entertainment industry with
your recent trip to Abu Dhabi . What motivated it? 

Usually, every year, I take a vacation, because I feel haven

worked so hard all through , I deserve a break. As they say all work and not play makes “Chika a dull girl”. I just had to take a time out and whenever I do, I make sure I rest very well. I don’t know why it has been all over the whole nation, but I had fun.

Don’t you think it’s extravagant? 

Whose money? Is it not the money I worked hard for? Did anybody give me? I have worked hard and I deserved every bit of the luxury I enjoyed over there and I can proudly say that. I will do it over and over again because I deserve it.

You have become the most sought-after actress right now in Nollywood. What’s the secret?

Honestly, it has to do with a lot of things, but most importantly God and hard work which is very important. God has been on my side, because beyond hard work, I have to give glory to God who keeps me alive and strengthens me. In addition, my fans have been wonder- ful. You can buy anything, but you can`t buy acceptance. My fans are interested in me and they want to see more of me, they want to watch me in movies and that`s how I get more jobs too.

Why were you honoured re- cently with a title?

I was given the title of Akwa Ugo 1
of Amuri Kingdom It was basically in recognition of my contribution to the advancement of Igboland and culture and my philanthropy.

What does it mean to you ?

It means I should just keep working hard. It means people appreciate and recognise my hard work. I am making my people and my country proud and I’m very glad about that. It shows that I’ve started giving back to the society.

So, what would you say is your greatest achievement so far?

I have a lot of achievements which
I am thankful for , but the greatest my career has brought me is being able to touch lives with my platform. I think I have been able to give a voice to the voiceless. I have been able to give back in my little way to the society.

How did your childhood prepare you for stardom?

I come from a closely-knit family. I was given everything I wanted in terms of education, food, clothing and all. I won`t say I come from supper-privileged background, but we were comfortable. My mother is my role model because she is very charitable. My mother taught me that life is not all about taking from people. You have to also give to people and touch lives. The greatest thing you have to do in life is to give back, so that people can remember you.

How have you given back to society?

I have done a couple of things with my foundation, Chika Ike Foundation , whose focus is children on the streets . We’ve supported them in Lagos, Enugu and Asaba for instance.

What is the worst scenario that ever brought you close to tears?

I once met a girl while I was filming in a remote village. Unlike other kids

who said aunty take a picture with me, aunty buy me this or that, the girl walked directly to me and asked me “Aunty, I want to go back to school.” I asked if she was in school and she was like I am living with my uncle and my parents are dead and I have been staying at home for several months. She was just crying. I was like every child will ask you for sweet, biscuits etc, but this girl at 8 years old was in need of education. I was almost shed- ding tears , but I gave her scholarship to university level.

Did you have to support your family during your child- hood?

I didn’t come from a wealthy family, but we are comfortable. I wasn’t born with a silver spoon in my mouth. Anything I have today basically was through hard work and grace of God. It was tough, because we were initially comfortable , but things were difficult at some point and dad couldn’t pay my school fees.
I had to support my family by selling shoes and bags. Most people don’t know the story behind Fancy Nancy my business, they don’t even understand the background. I assisted my aunty who has a boutique and sold some shoes for her and I made a little profit to pay my school fees. At some point too , I started modelling to support my family and siblings.

Initially what was your ambition?

I did many things that were en- tertainment inclined. I was a dancer and model too. When I entered secondary school, my friends and parents told me that they wanted more from me. Although I was a science student and I passed my exams in flying colours, I realised that I still had that passion for en- tertainment. During my days in the university, I started going for acting auditions. I even registered for modelling just for me to fulfil my passion and to assist my family.

If somebody is to write your biography now, what part of it would you like to erase?

I have been through a lot of things, good and bad, and they have made me who I am today. It’s been my stepping stone and made me the woman I am today. I cannot erase that. I don’t regret anything.

At what point did you take a decision that changed your life?

I have taken many decisions in my life; career-wise, marriage-wise and generally as a human being. I take many decisions daily.

What has life taught you?

I have come to realise that several things whether good or bad, that I en- counter in life, were designed to make me sit-up . Nobody is perfect; there is nobody who doesn’t have a rough background.

Aside being an actress, who is Chika Ike?

I’m a very good person and I am out- spoken about what I stand for. I’m focus and determined. Whatever I set my mind on doing, I achieve it no matter what anybody thinks.

What are your challenges as a celebrity?

There are lots of challenges I face as a celebrity. Sometimes, I feel like staying at home and doing nothing. I’m always challenged about my goals and I achieve them.

Has Chika found love again?

That is private. I don’t like too much publicity. When it is about to happen then my fans will know.

What lessons did you learn from your previous marriage?

I have learnt to be patient and that there’s a limit to everything. I have also learnt that I deserve the best and no one should make me feel better than who I am. I’ve also learnt to forgive and let go.

If you had an opportunity to recon- cile with your ex-husband would you ?

No, I won’t. He’s in the past and I don’t want to go back to him. I have forgiven him and let go. I don’t want to talk about my past.

How do you handle your male fans?

Everybody wants to date me, marry  me, be my best friend, etc but I just have to draw a line and respect myself. What kind of man would you like to settle down with? The key is happiness. I don’t want

to say a God fearing, kind, lovely, tall man etc. Those are clichés. I just need someone who will understand me and make me happy.

What is your best colour?

None, I just like bright colours, rich colours e.g, gold, black, red.

Why do you like such col- ours?

They’re bold and attractive to me.

How much does it cost you to dress well?

I can’t really say what it costs me to dress daily. I just like good clothes. Quality handbags, good shoes, and acces- sories. I like looking good generally. I like everything, jewellery and handbags.

Which part of your body do you like most if you are to flaunt it?

Every part of my body is nice and attractive .

I thank God for creating me very attractive . I have no bad part. I am just okay and generally sexy.

Dear LIB readers: Am I wasting my time with this man?

Dear LIB readers: Am I wasting my time with this man?

From a female LIB reader

Please I need your opinion on something that is keeping me up at night. I met my boyfriend in November 2010 and after only four months of dating he proposed to me on Valentine's Day in 2011. I was really excited and believed he didn't want to waste time and was eager to marry me. But it's going to three years now since we got engaged and he hasn't said anything about a wedding. Every time I mention it he tells me I'm acting desperate that I should calm down that if he didn't want to marry me he would not have given me a ring. We are both over 30 so I don't understand the delay. What bothers me most is that he's not even talking about it. I suggested we get married the last week of December 2013 so we can begin a new life in 2014 but he said he will let me know when he's ready. Should I give him an ultimatum or just be patient?

5 Ways to Spend New Year’s Eve When You’re Pregnant

Here Are Ways to Spend New Year’s Eve When You’re Pregnant

1. Milk & Cookies Party
Take your New Year’s Eve old school — like, elementary old school — with a milk and cookies party. Instead of cocktails, serve homemade milk shakes served in martini glasses. Ask your guests to bring their own favorite cookies for a cookie exchange, and make sure you have freshly baked cookies in the oven. For entertainment, play some old school games like Twister (which is interesting for a pregnant lady, huh?) Pictionary, or Life.
2. Movie Night
Invite your friends over for a night at the movies! Send tickets in lieu of actual invitations, and “collect” the tickets at the door. Line your floor and couches with lots of comfy pillows and serve bowls of movie theater threats: gourmet popcorn in a variety of flavors, jelly beans, and Skittles. Rent or download the latest new release for your screening and, for fun, play a trivia game before you start the movie to give your party the feel or a real movie (previews and all!) A movie night is easy to throw together and is a low-key way to ring in the new year with your feet propped up.
3. PJ Party
This one is for the girls — and could even be a fun way to include the younger crowd. Invite your best girlfriends (especially other pregnant friends or friends with young daughters) to wear their tackiest pajamas — yes, footie pajamas should be encouraged — for a fun, slumber party style fete. Plan to pamper by including manicures, pedicures, and facials. Serve homemade pizza, root beer floats, and ice cream sundaes, and turn on some pop music for an at-home dance party. This event should be fun, laid back, and reminiscent of the more innocent New Year’s Eve parties of your youth. As an added bonus, you can trick someone into painting your toes (you know you can’t reach them anyway!) Worried about the guys? Don’t. There are plenty of games on TV.
4. Chocolate Party
This one is all about the sweet stuff in life. Invite your friends over for a dinner party, and create a menu based around chocolate, from appetizers like chocolate covered potato chips or brie, strawberry, and chocolate grilled cheese to a main course with chocolate flavoring, like this chipotle and chocolate chili. Serve non-alcoholic chocolate martinis and don’t forget plenty of Hershey’s kisses — who doesn’t love kisses at midnight!? Since many pregnant women (including myself) crave chocolate, this is a perfect match.
5. Holiday Babymoon
Looking to get away with your sweetie before your baby arrives? New Year’s Eve is a great time to book a weekend trip or short vacation with your significant other. Many spas, hotels, and B&Bs offer New Year’s Eve special rates and packages, and some even have events to help you ring in the new year without any preparation or planning. One word of caution: some popular destinations book up quickly for New Year’s Eve, so plan accordingly or choose a more out-of-the-way location. After all, it’s who you’re with, not where you are, that really matters.
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6 Tips For Spotting Your Soulmate

It’s hard to use the term “soul mate” without feeling like you should be wearing a cape and meditating over a crystal. We’ve considered the concept extensively — both independently and together over Gchat — and we are of the same mind on the matter: Not only do soul mates exist but all of us have more than one soul mate out there. And to quote “Annie” (kind of), “A life without soul mates is like a night without stars” — a very dark night. But don’t think because you are single that you’ve been left out of the soul mate phenomenon. It’s limiting to think that merging with your other half must be romantic in nature. Soul mates can be lovers, friends, family members or even pets. While the universe might help us out in our quest to find them, it’s up to us to make sure we connect with them. Soul mate relationships seem so meant to be that it’s hard to imagine ever not knowing that person once you do. But just to be safe, below are some tips for making sure your soul mates in life don’t pass you by.

1. Instant recognition. Ami met her soul mate best friend 16 years ago on the first week of college when she made a snarky joke and her friend was the only person who laughed. One thing that’s true of all soul mates, whether they’re romantic or platonic, is that they will understand you better than anyone else. This feeling of mutual understanding often occurs almost instantly, and it only gets deeper and truer as you get to know each other better. What starts as a shared laugh at a snarky joke could lead to a lifetime of mutual laughter. Pay attention to those little moments of instant connection with people–you never know where they might take you!
2. Coincidences surround you. When you’re spending time with your soul mate, you’ll notice that the world is like a highway just for you. There will be road signs guiding you on your route. There will be coincidences everywhere. If you say, “I love so-and-so song!” You’ll be at a coffee shop one hour later and that song — as obscure as it may be — will be playing. If you’re talking about your mutual love of “90210,” you’ll sit down to dinner at a restaurant and notice that the dude sitting next to you is wearing a “90210″ sweatshirt. If you’re playing Trivial Pursuit, you’ll pull out the same card two times in a row. These are all real-life examples, by the way. But you get the point: the universe is sending you little affirmations that the two of you are meant to be playing Trivial Pursuit together for the rest of eternity. Don’t ignore the road signs.
3. A gut instinct. Many couples who have been married for decades describe a sense of knowing their partner was “the one” the moment they met, but this feeling can take other forms as well. You might just feel a little wave of intensity, or your heart might beat a little faster when you meet your future soul mate pet at a shelter. Don’t ignore those gut feelings.
4. A feeling of urgency or magnetism. When you’re in the vicinity of a soul mate, you will probably feel drawn to them or pulled toward them. You might feel a sense of urgency, like “I must talk to that person RIGHT NOW.” It’s easy to toss these feelings aside when they come out of nowhere or don’t seem to make sense, but do us a favor, OK? Even if it goes against all logic, act on those instincts. When Winona’s friend saw her soul mate walking into an art gallery, she found herself instantly transfixed on him. Though she’s usually extremely shy, she followed him in and eventually asked him out. In general, when the universe nudges you down a path, follow it.
5. You’re in the wrong place at the wrong time, to be in the right place at the right time. Soul mate meetings often start with some kind of hiccup in your daily routine, or something going wrong, or your best laid plans falling apart. When you look back though, you’ll realize all that perceived inconvenience was totally meant to be. Winona was so upset when she didn’t get into a writing class she wanted, but when she begrudgingly signed up for a different class, she ended up sitting by the person who would become her soul mate BFF. A friend of Ami’s met her current boyfriend when her usual bus stop was closed and she was forced to get on at a different station. The fact is, sometimes we have to take a convoluted, slightly annoying path to meet the people we’re supposed to meet. But it’s always worth it in the end.
6. Premonition. Often times, you’ll have a premonition of meeting your soul mate before you do in the form of a dream or a déjà vu type of sensation. A friend of Winona’s actually wrote a journal entry describing her ideal guy–physical and personality traits–and ended up meeting him two days later. And Ami knows someone who had a dream about her future boyfriend years before they met — describing him by name, appearance and the circumstances of their meeting. If you’re not into psychic mumbo jumbo, that’s fine, but you may find yourself having some kind feeling like you’ve known this person forever.
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SHOCKING SHOPPING: Man Jumps To His Death After Girlfriend Insists On Bying More Shoes (PHOTO)

China – A man jumped to his death after a furious row with his girlfriend who insisted they go into another clothes shop.
CCTV shows Tao Hsiao, 38, escorting his girlfriend around a shopping mall in Xuzhou, Jiangsu province, east China. After five hours Tao finally had enough and demanded to go home. Eyewitnesses say he could be heard saying they already had more bags than they could carry, but she insisted on going into one more shop where the was a special offer on shoes.
An eyewitness said: “He told her she already had enough shoes, more shoes that she could wear in a lifetime, and it was pointless buying any more. She started shouting at him, accusing him of being a skinflint, and of spoiling Christmas. It was a really heated argument.”
The shouting match ended when the man chucked the bags on the floor and jumped over the balcony. He smashed into Christmas decorations on his way down before hitting the floor seven stories below.
Emergency services arrived at the scene, but Tao was killed immediately from the impact of the fall.
A shopping spokesman said: “His body was removed fairly quickly. He actually landed on one of the stalls below and then fell to the floor so although the store was damaged it meant he didn’t hit anybody.
“This is a tragic incident, but this time of year can be very stressful for many people.”

I’m A Lesbian But Haven’t Enjoyed sex So Much Since I Slept With A Couple Of Men

I’m confused. I’m a lesbian who came out a few years ago. I first started sleeping with other women while I was in my teens, before I ever slept with a man.


But the thing now is that at college, while I still thought I was straight, I slept with two different men.
I am very attracted to women, but since these experiences with men, I have been much more nervous and self-conscious and haven’t enjoyed s*x as much.
Pls advice me, what should I do?

7 Secret Things Guys Find Sexy About You

Get a detailed insight into the mind of your cutie with our brief review of 7 secret things guys find sexy about you. There are various qualities that have nothing to do with your look, still radiate s*x-appeal and sensuality.

Your appearance is only one of the most important things spotted by men. However, there are also other factors that seem extremely attractive and sight-pampering to gents.
Read through our brief review of 7 secret things guys find sexy about you in order to master the art of seduction. The surface is not everything. It is essential to work on other aspects of your personality to make sure you steal the heart of your cutie. Keep in mind a few flirting and dating strategies to turn yourself into a real treasure for all guys.
No.1 Your Voice
Men have a special sense to distinguish different voices. Whether your voice is soft and gentle or more smokey, your cutie will definitely love it. Use different tricks to manipulate your voice and make yourself even more attractive
No.2 Your Dance Style
Make sure you don’t overdo your dance moves and maintain your flirty allure. Guys are simply mesmerized by a feminine or cute dance style.
There’s no need to learn a choreography to win his heart, instead rely on your sense of rhythm and keep it cool!
No.3 Your Wit
Flaunt your wit each time the situation allows it. Guys are fond of confident and at the same time, funny answers and lines. Shyness is not always the best means to conquer the heart of the opposite s*x.
No.4 The Way You Walk
Use this secret weapon to flaunt your s*x-appeal. Hip-swinging is no longer necessary. Instead, stay confident and wear shoes that make you comfortable. Make sure you skip wearing killer heels that challenge your walking skills.
No.5 Your Laugh
Your laugh is unique as a fingerprint. The more you show it off, the more attractive you’ll become. Guys find it ultra-sexy if you have a feminine and ear-pampering laughter.
No.6 The Way You Smell
Perfumes can only add an extra s*x-appeal boost to your look. However, men are fond of your natural smell. This clearly has something to do with pheromones as numerous studies demonstrated. Keep the perfume use low and rely on the mesmerizing power of bath and body lotions.
No.7 Your Adventurous Side
Show off your confidence and trust in your partner by being up for various activities. Men are attracted to women who are not afraid of experimenting with new things and have the courage to fail if that’s the price for acquiring unique experiences.
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The 10-in-1 Lady Men Fall In Love With Anyday….Anytime!!!

So ladies, prepare yourselves to find out what men find attractive in a woman, what they appreciate and what can be a complete turn off.

Firstly, it is very hard to know what men think, because each individual has his own perspective about life and about how things should be.
We have however done some research and we found out what were the types they were most attracted to and, therefore, what men want. Are you prepared to find out more? Perfect! Let’s get started!
1. The Best Friend
Many men would love their lady to be the one to whom they can share their concerns and they expect unconditional support from their significant other. It is very important for partners to share their issues and try to solve them together.
2. The Independent Woman
Men don’t like women to depend on them. They love those ladies that know what they want in life, that have their own career and hobbies. It’s always great to get the chance to share new passions and get to learn new things together. Also, why spend every minute together? You might end up suffocating each other.
3. The Sweet Beauty
Most men feel attracted to women that are sweet and caring. They also love a good sense of humor, so, if you are one of those ladies that know how to handle problems with a big smile on your face, you’re just perfect! Also, what better way to face an embarrassing situation than with a funny joke up your sleeve?
4. The Pressure Free Lady
Most men tend to react badly when it comes to pressure. They don’t like to be forced to do things they don’t enjoy. Our advice would be to allow your man some privacy. We all need our alone time once in a while. So it would be better not to call him or send him texts every hour.
5. Miss Equality
If you are one of those women that think that men and women are equal, you’re just a sweet treat for most of men. They love a woman that has the same rights and responsibilities as them and that just don’t take chivalry for granted. We no longer live in an era where only men should provide for the well-being of the family, we live in one where women work hard because they want to have a successful career.
6. The Voice of Reason
According to men, wise women are very attractive. Why? Because they are mature, they know what they want and they say what’s on their mind. Moreover, maturity helps you deal with some bad situations calmly and wisely, without there being any need for drama. However, this type of woman is also the one that says what she doesn’t like and when she sees a bad behavior, she will speak her mind, because she wants to change things for the better.
7. The Sexy Lady
Sexy without being trashy – this is what men find physically attractive. All women have parts of their body that they like and parts they hate. So, it would be better to highlight your best physical assets in a sexy, yet lady-like manner, because you would not like for your man to feel embarrassed by other men’s comments. Men love women that behave and dress like a lady.
8. The Well Mannered Woman
Nothing is more embarrassing than a dinner with your significant other’s family where you make a fool out of yourself. This is definitely a turn off for men, as it is for women. So, a good and well mannered lady will always be a better option than one lacking style.
9. The Best Supporter
Ladies, your men would love your unconditional support. They like to be complimented on their looks and achievements, so, if you wish to keep the harmony in your relationship, you know what to do. They will surely appreciate your initiative, we bet!
10. The Great Personality Lady
Men are not only attracted by looks, they are also attracted by women with a great personality. Be yourself and impress your partner with your creativity and intelligence. They love smart women that know plenty of things and can carry a conversation on different topics. This way, your dates will be amazing and unforgettable!
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REVEALED: What Pasuma Says About His Marriage Plans

Looks like another marriage of Nigerian celebrities is coming soon. Popular Fuji musician Wasiu Alabi Odetola is set to marry Yoruba actress Ronke Odusanya, a.k.a Flakky Ididowo.

In a recent interview the Fuji artiste left little space for doubting it.

“Well I am in a serious relationship with Ronke Odusanya a.k.a Flaky Ididowo. If things work according to plan we might get married soon. Though everything is in God’s hands but I can assure you that we are in a serious relationship.”

Speaking further about his daughter and why he is still single, Pasuma said the following:
“I had my first child when I was 23 and by the time she was born, a lot of people thought I was not serious then. Thank God that she is 23 now while I am 46. The girl is now my friend and confidant.
“I have been married once but it did not work. Mind you marriage is a life time contract, so I don’t want to rush into it. But I can assure you I will definitely move into my new house with a wife soon, ” the musician stated.

Mide Funmi Martins’ and Afeez Owo’s Marriage Crashes

The daughter of late Funmi Martins, Mide, married a popular Nollywood actor and producer Afeez Owo several years ago. She also joined the Yoruba movie industry shortly. But, unfortunately Mide’s marriage to Afeez has crashed.

According to Nigeriafilms, their marriage packed up on an alleged infidelity accusation by Afeez. The actor has always been suspicious of his wife’s movement, and whenever he confronted her, her responses were not pleasing to his ear.
He had decided he could not handle her ‘infidelity’ anymore and separated from the actress months ago, despite pleas from friends and family.

“The couple has been having issues with their marriage several months back but the crack became evident after the couple started living separately this year,” a source of Nigeriafilms disclosed.

Their duo has since moved on. Afeez Owo not publicly shows off his new love interest, while Mide has their kids in her custody, and has not publicly identified with a love interest yet.

How sex Tape Scandal Moved Me Up – Chidinma Narrates

Kora award winner and Ex Project Fame winner, Chidinma Ekile, revealed in a recent interview to Punch how she has been able to manage the recent controversies surrounding her.


Read the abstracts from the interview below:
About the s*x video:

I woke up one morning and I was greeted on the internet with ‘Chidinma and s*x tape’. I was worried primarily because of my mother. I didn’t let her see the video but I had to show her the photos. I didn’t want to go out that day. I couldn’t go out. But my mum felt otherwise. She told me to ignore the mischief makers.
I almost took some actions but I thought against it. I met Sound Sultan on a set. He told me, ‘Babe, you are now a star. I welcome you officially into the industry.’ I trended for three days. Even people who didn’t know me got to know me. My fan base grew. And then, I was happy because more than 90 per cent of the public didn’t believe I was the one in that video.
There were people who didn’t need to see the video to believe I couldn’t have done such thing.
I am just grateful to everyone who didn’t believe the story. My twitter account was hacked and the people created another account. They kept releasing nasty pictures and they were even responding to the tweets as if I was the one doing it. I was just watching and laughing. It put me in the spotlight. I used it for good.

About the role of the scandal in current carrier

Ever since I started, I have been scared of scandals. I didn’t want to have any. But I realized that I cannot run away from it. It is just normal. It is not everybody who is happy seeing me rise. Some people are trying to do something to stop me. But s*x tape is not enough to stop me. They should bring up something else.
The s*x tape just took me to another level in my career. It moved me up. This is no more ‘little’ Chidinma. It didn’t bring me down in any way. I am still doing a lot of things.

About marriage

Everybody wants to marry me but I am not ready for marriage. I still have to make more money before I consider marriage. I have been linked with so many people. People cannot imagine me being a saint. They are just looking for something to attach to me.

Peter Okoye: Why Will My Brother Be Against My Marriage?

Since the day Peter Okoye got married to Lola Omotayo, his elder brother, Jude Okoye has not said anything about the union, either directly or indirectly.
He had time to tweet about younger artistes and even wish one of them “Happy Birthday” on twitter, but no word from him to Peter and his wife, Lola.
Anyway, Peter Okoye has come to the defence of his brother. Below is what he said:
“I saw some of those reports and was full of laughter. Everybody is just laughing because the reports are like comedy to us. Honestly, there is no iota of truth in the rumour. But it’s one of the prices you pay as a celebrity, so I remain focused.”
It would be recalled that the same Jude Okoye was not even present at their wedding.

5 Unique and Best Date Ideas for Your Pregnant Wife

Pregnancy is that phase of a woman’s life when she needs constant love and support from her spouse. Dear hubbies, this is the time to let your expecting wife know that you are there with her all the way (till that beautiful bundle of joy is in your hand) and beyond! As she is physically and psychologically going through changes, shower her with love by taking her out for a romantic date. But, ditch the conventional date setups, and do something unexpecting for your expecting wife that would prove to her that you not only love her, but also care for your baby. Here are a few ideas for you:
1. A date at a preschool
Pregnancy has its share of ups and downs. So, to get past the times when you and your wife are filled with uncertainty about the impending child birth, set up a date in your neighbourhood preschool. The vibrant atmosphere filled with laughter of the children will quickly create warmth in your heart, which will replace any niggling doubts about the arrival of your adorable baby. So, hubbies, make your wife feel special by surrounding her by an environment as vibrant as that of a preschool.
2. A date at the kids’ store
Guys, just utter the word ‘shopping’ and experience its magic on your sweetheart’s face. Now, add to this a romantic date setup as well. You read it right!
Date steup: Find a kids’ store around that would fit your perfect date idea. Book the place and arrange for a date there. This will definitely be a surprise for your wife as she enters the store with the idea of just shopping and sees a dinner table there. So, pick up clothes for your little one, browse for cribs and strollers as you enjoy a tasty dinner at the same place.

3. A date at children’s bookstore
As you did at the kid’s store, do the same at a children’s bookstore as well. Book the place and arrange a date there. Pick up books on pregnancy and child care, and marvel at the joys of a parent-child relationship. Also, sharing these books with your wife speaks of your commitment to the new addition to your family. Plus children’s bookstores always have a vibrant atmosphere around, filled with colors, toys, and books for kids and on kids.
4. Date at an amusement park
Take a day trip to an amusement park. Gorge on all those cotton candies and chocolates, and buckle up for your roller coaster ride into parenthood!! Pregnancy comes with its share of discomforts for every woman. Taking your wife to such a place will also divert her mind from her nausea and other health issues and make her enjoy amidst the company of all the children around. But one advice, just be careful on the rides that you choose and avoid those that might cause your wife any distress.
5. A date at kids’ home for underprivileged
Set up a date at a crèche for the underprivileged. Get some toys, books and food for the kids and spend a day interacting with them. Bring some happiness on their faces and feel your hearts brimming with love and joy. This will not only make your wife’s day, but also brighten the day for those less fortunate kids.
It is these affectionate moments that will make this pregnancy a beautiful journey for you and your loved one. It would also show your wife how much you love her and your baby!

5 Ways To Be More Present With Your Husband/Wife

It’s hard to give your partner your full attention when a fast-paced life makes everything seem like a priority. He or she may be talking to you, but you’re busy checking your text messages, thinking about what you’re going to make for dinner, or just spacing out because you’re so tired. While many items on your to-do list are screaming to get done, one thing you should definitely check off is giving your relationship the love and quality time it deserves. Try these five techniques to be more present with your significant other now and watch how they bring you together.
1. Unplug: Whether you’re snap-chatting during your dinner date or texting your best friend on your morning walk, you’re likely spending a good portion of your precious QT plugged in. When distracted by technology, it’s impossible to focus your full attention on something else—in this case your partner. A study at Stanford University shows that this type of multitasking is not effective, and may even impair your brain function.
1. Brainstorm ways you can unplug together. For starters, try shutting down for your next meal without the television, phones, music or any other distractions. Take it to the next level by eating in silence, simply appreciating one another’s presence. Eat slowly, savor the flavor, and soak up the experience as a whole. While it may seem awkward at first, it’ll bring the two of you closer together.
2. Make Time for Playtime: For children, a day doesn’t go by without playtime. But as we enter adulthood, making room for play gets put on the back burner—there’s simply “no time” for it anymore. It’s time you changed that by going back to your roots to bring your inner child out! No, I’m not saying to act “childish” but rather to bring those endearing qualities—like laughter, fun and play—into your relationship. Go ahead: start a dance party in your living room, whip out the dusty old board games and goof off together. You have full permission to wipe that serious look off your face!

3. Go On a Mini Getaway: Is work, stress, and life in general getting in the way of your love life? That’s a telltale sign that you need to get away! There’s no need to go on vacation to a far-away tropical island in order to take a break; plan your own mini getaway close to home. Look into B & B’s near you, plan an impromptu camping trip, or pack a bag for a picnic on the beach. Spending alone time together (without friends, relatives, coworkers or children) will help you build your relationship by reconnecting on a deeper level.
4. Get a Couple’s Massage: What better way to relish your time together than by getting a couple’s massage? We know that massages can be extremely therapeutic for your mind, body and soul, so why not add your significant other to the mix for a more blissful experience? You’ll both be able to relax and unwind with the comfort of knowing your other half is right by your side.
5. Make Friends with Your Kitchen: Engaging in social activities with your partner, like cooking together, can instantly boost your connection. They say “The kitchen is the heart of the home” after all. Cooking can be an incredible bonding experience, encouraging quality time together filled with discussion and laughter. In a world where fast-food and take-out is the norm, it can be refreshing to slow down and spend a night in together with your stove (and perhaps a bottle of wine)!

Important Questions Women Should Ask About Their s*xual Health

Even the most self-assured, confident women sometimes feel uncomfortable discussing the intimate matters related to women’s health.
Certain questions can make women feel bashful, and we have noticed in our practice that these questions are often saved until the very last minutes of a visit. We tend to call these the “out-the-door” questions—those that get blurted out as if an after-thought.
While this hesitation is understandable, you should know that as OB/GYNs, we have pretty much seen it all when it comes to women’s health.
Your doctor is there to help you and he/she is not going to be grossed out, surprised or judgmental—whatever your issue! Although you may be experiencing something unfamiliar, uncomfortable or embarrassing, you should know that your doctor’s office is a safe place where you are encouraged to have open, honest conversations about your health.
So, what are some of the most common “out-the-door” question’s we’ve heard in our practice?
Related: How to Keep Crazy Hormones in Check

Are my labia normal? More than a few women have this question, and the answer is almost always, yes. Just as we all look different, so do our vaginas. Varied size, shape and color of labia are all common, as are uneven colors and textures. The best way to ensure optimal health is to become familiar with yourself—use a hand mirror to observe how your v**ina looks. This way, you will be able to notice any changes or irregularities that should be brought to your doctor’s attention.
What is that bump? If you do notice an unfamiliar bump on your v**ina, don’t panic. Women can develop a variety of bumps on their labia and v**ina, but most bumps aren’t serious. Some common types of bumps are skin tags, small cysts, or instances of folliculitis– minor skin infections near hair follicles. That said, you should always ask your doctor to take a look at anything new as some STDs, like private part warts or herpes, may also present as small bumps.
Is it a yeast infection…or something worse? Women sometimes confuse the symptoms of a yeast infection with those of an STD, especially if they have recently had unprotected s*x. While a yeast infection can easily be treated with an over-the-counter option(s), STDs can call for more aggressive treatment and can pose long term health hazards if left untreated. If you think you could have been exposed to an STD or are experiencing abnormal symptoms, be open and honest with your doctor so you can get to the bottom of the problem.
Additionally, we always recommend that women and their partners should both be tested for STDs before having s*x for the first time.
Is an*l s*x safe? an*l s*x can be safe, but there are several things you should know before trying it. First of all, never have an*l s*x directly followed by vaginal s*x, as this can transfer bacteria to the v**ina. Realize that the rectum is not designed for intercourse. It is not as elastic as the v**ina and doesn’t produce lubrication like the v**ina, so it can tear. That said, an*l s*x can be safe when women are fully aroused, the an*l sphincter is relaxed, and artificial lubrication is used generously on the man-hood and in and around the anus.
It is not uncommon for women to experience light an*l bleeding for one to two days following an*l s*x, usually indicating a minor tear inside the rectum, which is not serious. However, any prolonged or heavy bleeding should be brought to your doctor’s attention.